Should I leave or should I go?

Okay, here comes my tragic little story! My son (27), who is the only of my 3 grown up children who’s never come to visit me since I moved back to my home country (I always visit them where they live), has finally given me the honour of his visit! He arrived two days ago, we had one really wonderful day together, but he didn’t feel good yesterday and went to bed very early. I was hoping that he would feel better today, because I’ve already made plans for today, there is so much I would like to show him in town. But unfortunately, he feels a lot worse today. He seems to have caught some kind of stomach flu (very high temperature, headache and all the rest) so he really can’t go anywhere. But I just dont wanna stay inside all day, it’s a beautiful day and I would like to do s.th. with my girl-friend. But I can’t leave him alone, can I? On the one hand, he really is old enough to take care of himself, on the other hand he is really very ill and I think he wants me to stay, even if he didn’t say so. What would you do? Just be selfish?

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8 Responses to “Should I leave or should I go?”

  1. stangjumper - July 4th, 2009

    IMO i stay.
    You can do sight seeing with your g/friend and son another day. Even if its pouring down with rain. He after all made the 1st gesture to you by making the 1st step to see you. He may be old enough to look after himself, but if it were me and and i went out with my b/friend then get a call he`s taken the turn for the worse and is in hospital, i know i damn well feel guilty about it. Ask him as well, it seems ot me reading between the lines (or you wouldnt post here.) that you really want to stay with him. If he insists in you going, make a deal with him to ring you if he gets worse, make him promise you that 1 thing, or just dont go.
    You can do the sights anytime of the year, dont matter what type of weather it is. Son comes 1st. I am sure he feels bad to , but he couldnt help going down with a tummy bug.
    I dont know if he as a parnter or anything, but if he is on his own, he is going to be pretty weak and may not be able to do things as when ill. Communication is the key here. Ask him, tell him how you feel. But in saying that the Best plans laid are very rarely laid out, his illnes maybe was meant to happen. If you did go out, could you honestly say you would enjoy it? You be worrying about him to much. Can you see where i am going with this? You have a better time when he is fit and well and you 3 are all togther having fun. Ask him that is the only way you going to know.

  2. TerezBaskin - July 4th, 2009

    I reckon you could ask him how he feels about being home, and if he's okay with it, just go, but make sure he has a phone with your number beside the bed, put some water by his bed, food in the fridge, and call him throughout the day if you like. If he has a temperature and all he probably just needs quiet so he can sleep, so leaving him to sleep it off would probably be the best thing for him.

  3. jmschwartzman - July 4th, 2009

    I would either stay, or I would go , make sure he had all he was going to need (including phone numbers) and get a neighbour to call in to check on him.

  4. lovealisa - July 4th, 2009

    Why not call your girl-friend, ask her to come to your place Then you can look after your son together. That way you and your g-friend will be doing something together and your son will have 2 people to care for him.

  5. joomlach - July 4th, 2009

    If you want him to visit you again, show him you care and stay.

  6. paulfabretti - July 4th, 2009

    I would stay who knows how long it'll take him to visit you again.

  7. PhilFranco - July 4th, 2009

    Hang in there. Even if he doesn't need you, just your presence will be a comfort. And in the remote circumstance that he gets worse, you will be there to give aid and get a doctor over, or get him to a hospital.

    If he gets better — which often happens with this sort of sudden-onset bug — then you two can have a pleasant bedside conversation.

    Too bad to waste a fine day, but there will be plenty of other fine days after your son has left. In my view, your first and only duty is to your son, even though he is an adult and even though he may spend the day sound asleep. You may accomplish nothing more than wiping his forehead with a cool damp cloth, and refilling his water glass; but that is much more important than bouncing around town with your lady friend.

  8. markuznyc - July 4th, 2009

    Males are really funny things. If they really are ill, they will want you to go out and have fun, but if they are not that ill, its as if the world is about to explode (I call this man flu).

    I suggest you stay in because if anything happens that may need medical help then he will need someone to either take him to hospital or wait on a doctor with him. he might become unconscious or something, so he will need someone with him at all times

    Especially if you don't know whats wrong.

    So i suggest you stay with him, no matter how nice a day it is.

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